Day Two: A Room with a View
Writing Assignment: If you could zoom through space in the speed of light, what place would you go to right now?
IF I could be instantly transported to another place right now, I would be in my daughter’s house in Maryland. Her and my five grandchildren are my place of choice.
“Dee” is a special woman. Not just because she is my daughter but for what she is doing with her life. I know she wouldn’t agree with that statement. Humble her! But it’s true. She overcame a childhood affected by violent acts of abuse; she put herself through college. She attended 5 years instead of 4 and for all her efforts, earned two Bachelor’s degrees. One in Elementary education with a minor in Math. The other is in Theater Arts. And she is very talented (in the classroom and on the stage)! Dee is a writer, a director, a make-up artist and a set designer, among other things!
She taught for several years in a private school. She met and married a man whom she was introduced to. She lived in Maryland and he came from California where the “matchmaker” also currently lived. They had an internet romance. He then came to Maryland where they married and settled.
Then came the children, four within 7 years. Child number three, a sweet little girl, was not well. Born prematurely, she also had multiple anomalies and trouble breathing. Months later she was also diagnosed with an occult spina bifida. Doctor’s were not sure she would ever walk and perhaps not even able to sit. Dee worked very hard with this little girl and not only is she sitting and walking and running, she is also in a gymnastics troupe and cheerleading squad! She has overcome so much in her young life and still faces many challenges in the future. This amazing young lady was named after my Mother and Mother-in-law, who shared the same name and died 8 hours apart in the same hospital. They are both of very blessed memory.
So Dee has been very busy taking care of and raising a special needs child and then of course is the rest of the crew. The firstborn is” A” (a boy). Second is “S” (a girl and another Cheerleading-gymnast champ). Third is a curly headed wonder boy, who loves football, “S-2”. And fourth is “R” our miracle girl. Dee homeschooled all of them for several years (she is a teacher, remember?) and still homeschooling “R”. I credit all her achievements to her mom’s unending dedication and perseverance.
Dee went through a divorce and survived with minimal assistance. You see, two years after “R” was born, my husband and I immigrated to Israel. We left all we loved in America so that we could do what we were “called” to do, namely, inherit and live in the land God had promised to the children of Abraham, Issac and Jacob.
Both our daughters agreed, though they were not so happy about our leaving. They wanted to go also but they both had families and other issues that were preventing them from going. During this time, “Dee” and her husband were having problems but neither one of them let on. They knew we would not go if we discovered the problem and so they sacrificed their happiness for us. What a tremendous gift that was.
A few years later another man entered her life, but this time she was pretty clear about not marrying him. Their relationship produced a beautiful baby girl, “M”. And “Dee” chose to be a single parent for now five children. Ten years have passed since we came to Israel, and because of mostly financial issues, neither of us have had enough funds to cross the big ocean for a visit (or a move). I have not seen or kissed or hugged my daughter in ten years, My grandchildren are now 17, 15, 13, 11 and the youngest is now 7 and I have never met her.
I choke back some heavy duty crying sessions when I think about it. “Dee” finds it difficult to communicate much because she is overwhelmed with sadness at my not being with her to share her life. Her older sister also moved to Israel a year and a half after we did. I am sure that “Dee” feels abandoned and she is hurting.
I find it so hard to believe how much time has gone by and how much I have missed. A year and a half ago my husband passed away after a long and complicated illness. “Dee” did not get a chance to say goodbye to her father, and she could not come to the funeral. The pain we were all feeling was intensified by the whole situation.
Unfortunately, there does not seem to be a resolution any time soon, so If I could zoom through space in the speed of light, what place would I go to right now?
That place would be a where hearts meld, where there is no past or future, only a now. A place of warmth and happy tears and where hugs never cease. This place is with a daughter whom I love and miss so very very much!